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Hannah graduated from Arizona State University with her Bachelor’s in Psychology and Master’s in Counseling and is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Arizona. She began her work as a therapist 12 years ago in South Phoenix with an intensive outpatient program for teens and their families. She joined Nexus in the residential program as the clinical director, eventually being promoted to the executive director, creating and building the clinical program structure and a strong culture focused on redirecting the trajectory of young lives.
The Nexus Teen Academy Editorial Staff is composed of writers, editors, and clinical reviewers with many years of experience writing about mental health and behavioral health treatment. Our team utilizes peer-reviewed, clinical studies from sources like SAMHSA to ensure we provide the most accurate and current information.
Anger is a normal part of a teen’s development, and is usually caused by changes in hormones or responsibilities and a desire for independence or self-discovery. A 2015 survey reports a 7.8% prevalence of inappropriate, intense, or poorly controlled anger.
When left unmanaged, teen anger can become destructive and cause problems in school or a teen’s relationships and social life. It’s essential to address it as soon as you notice a pattern.
In this article, you will learn effective adolescent anger management strategies and how to support your child. If you’re worried that your son or daughter could spiral out of control due to anger, contact our team at Nexus Teen Academy. We can provide expert insight and treatment options for your teen struggling with anger issues.
Proven Anger Management Strategies for Teens
Anger management techniques help teens reflect on their thoughts and feelings to develop better responses. They include the following:
Cognitive Behavioral Techniques
Cognitive restructuring involves shifting a teen’s thought patterns and changing impulsive reactions. It teaches them to replace negative thoughts and responses with healthy ones.
“Pause and think” strategies provide a deeper insight into adolescent emotions and enable teens to understand the problem and respond appropriately rather than react.
Mindfulness and Relaxation Tools
Anger increases the breathing rate by triggering the release of stress hormones. By controlling their breathing with slow, deep breaths, teens can feel quick relief and effectively calm themselves. Additionally, grounding exercises and journaling can improve mindfulness and help teens avoid aggressive reactions.
Physical Outlets for Anger
Activities like art and music provide an outlet to release built-up tension and allow teens a more productive way to process their emotions. Moreover, exercise and sports can also trigger the production of mood-enhancing hormones and are a great form of stress relief.
Teaching Assertive Communication
Poor communication can worsen a teenager’s mood and escalate conflict. Assertive communication helps express needs and feelings with clarity and calmness. It involves techniques such as:
Using “I” statements to self-express with clarity and avoid sounding accusatory
Using body language and facial expressions to communicate with confidence
Setting boundaries respectfully by learning to say “No”
Keeping emotions under control when communicating needs or feelings
Creating a Teen Anger Management Toolbox
Every adolescent experiences emotions differently. Creating a personalized set of coping techniques can help manage moods in unique situations and provide teens with a path forward when their emotions get the better of them. Include the following in your teen anger toolbox:
Understanding my anger, its triggers, and its impacts
Finding alternative thoughts to replace negative ones
Making amends for my outbursts
Keeping a diary of my angry episodes
Role of Parents in Managing Teen Anger
While teenagers strive for independence, they may not always regulate their emotions on their own. Since adolescence is a developmental stage, teens can learn the following about anger management from their parents:
Modeling Healthy Emotional Regulation
Adolescents learn from what they see in the people close to them. How you handle your anger sets the tone for your teen’s emotional regulation. Here’s what you can do:
Name your emotions and comment on why you feel that way.
Brainstorm solutions to difficult situations together.
Apply coping mechanisms like deep breathing, cognitive reframing, or pausing. Share how different strategies make you feel after using them.
Encouraging Open Conversations
Open communication during heated moments can foster a healthy relationship with your child. You can validate their emotions without dismissing or overreacting by:
Allowing your teen to express themselves without interruption or judgment
Paying attention while making eye contact and responding with appropriate body language
Restating their message in your own words to show understanding
Verbalizing the unspoken using statements like, “It sounds like that upsets you.”
Setting Clear and Consistent Boundaries
Boundaries foster a trusting relationship and can reduce conflict. It is vital to discuss clear and consistent expectations with your teenager. Use strategies like “meeting in the middle” when your opinions differ. When discussing the consequences of crossing these boundaries, choose discipline over punishment.
Knowing When to Step Back
Allowing your teenager space for independent emotional processing can instill self-confidence. They may learn that not all situations need intervention and that they can work out some challenges independently. It may not always be obvious when to step back, so trust your instincts. Let your teen know you’re always there to support them should they feel overwhelmed.
Why Teens Experience Intense Anger
Various factors may contribute to the intense anger some teens experience. Let’s take a closer look at some of the common factors and triggers that cause teen anger.
Biological and Psychological Factors
The brain develops at different stages. One of the first parts to develop is the limbic system, which processes emotions, memory, and motivation. The prefrontal cortex, which handles reasoning and decision-making, develops much later. Teenagers may thus experience intense emotions or impulsivity. Due to the slow development of the prefrontal cortex, teens may struggle to understand, express, or manage their feelings.
During puberty, a teen’s body produces hormones that affect their emotions in the following ways:
Estrogen Hormone: Increased production of estrogen can lower serotonin levels, causing mood swings.
Testosterone Hormone: Increased production of testosterone can cause irritability and mood swings.
Environmental Triggers
Environmental triggers like academic pressure, peer conflict, and family tension can cause stress, which can lead to a heightened state of arousal, affecting emotional regulation. During this state of arousal, the body releases stress hormones that increase blood pressure and heart rate, changes that are similar to when the body prepares for aggression.
Underlying Emotional Issues
Mental health conditions like teen depression, anxiety, and PTSD can impact anger management. Research suggests a connection between suppressed or inappropriately expressed anger and anxiety. Moreover, anger is a secondary emotion. Teenagers may experience primary emotions like sadness, loss, or fear first. They may try to deal with these uncomfortable feelings by unconsciously expressing anger.
When Anger Becomes a Problem
When expressed appropriately, anger can be okay and even necessary. It’s the brain’s way of keeping us safe or signaling injustice. But when anger triggers aggressive, violent, or self-harming behavior, it poses high risks to physical and mental health. Withdrawal can also cause agitation and, ultimately, unhealthy outbursts.
Common Signs of Anger Issues in Teens
Teenagers who remain angry for an extended period or whose anger affects their daily lives may have deeper issues. Here’s how you can identify anger issues:
Behavioral Signs
Teens may express their anger outwardly by yelling, slamming doors, or engaging in physical aggression.
A teenager who hasn’t developed healthy coping mechanisms may feel an urge to express their anger outwardly, which often leads to physical or emotional harm.
Emotional Signs
Adolescent anger can manifest as irritability, frequent frustration, or resentment. Frustrated teens may feel out of control and resort to unhealthy ways to manage their feelings. When anger comes out as frustration towards someone else and builds up, it becomes resentment. It’s a passive manifestation of anger since it involves indirectly expressing it. However, if teens do not receive proper anger management treatment, these problems can eventually boil over into something more dangerous, such as physical violence.
Social or Academic Consequences
Anger affects how teens perceive and respond to disagreements. As a result, it can cause frequent conflicts with peers and affect the quality of their relationships. When left untreated, this can lead to angry outbursts, aggressive behavior, and drops in academic performance.
Healthy Anger vs. Unhealthy Anger in Teens
Anger is a normal human emotion. However, most teenagers do not know how to properly manage their anger and often express it in unhealthy or even dangerous ways.
Recognizing the Difference
Anger is a natural, survival emotion that is difficult to avoid entirely. Avoiding or ignoring emotions can make them stronger and lead to consequences. Research shows an association between suppressed anger and increased mortality risks.
Expressing emotions in healthy ways can promote well-being and relieve stress or teen anxiety. It can also improve self-awareness and decision-making.
Emotional intelligence involves understanding, using, and managing emotions. Teens can improve their emotional intelligence by doing the following:
Naming Emotions: The first step to understanding and labeling your feelings. Are you happy, sad, or frustrated?
Understanding Triggers: Helps recognize your emotional reactions and those of others.
Learning Emotional Literacy: Involves understanding and communicating your emotions. Some of its elements include knowing your feelings, having empathy, and managing emotions.
Treatment and Anger Management for Teens
The following treatment interventions can help address teen anger issues:
Teen Group Therapy:This suggests behavioral strategies for managing responses to anger triggers.
Family Counseling: It can be used with anger management counseling to reinforce education across the family.
Getting School Support
Schools can support teen anger management in the following ways:
Involving Counselors: They can hold group counseling sessions to help improve anger management. They can also encourage necessary skills and attitudes.
Using Behavior Plans: They can reinforce positive anger management and discourage unhealthy behaviors.
Classroom Accommodation: Using preferential seating away from sources of conflict. Schools can also introduce classroom cool-down or time-out locations.
Teen Anger Management at Nexus Teen Academy
Self-awareness is a superpower that helps teens develop effective anger management. It helps understand anger, its triggers, and an adolescent’s responses. At Nexus Teen Academy, we guide teens to build self-awareness and reinforce healthy anger management. We believe that long-term emotional regulation helps teenagers develop emotional stability, greater resilience, and positive coping skills.
We understand that growth is progressive and doesn’t happen overnight. Every effort a teen puts towards emotional regulation makes a difference to their well-being. Contact Nexus Teen Academy today. We are happy to guide and support you all the way during this journey. If you are looking for a place to send your defiant teenager, give our team a call now.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
How do I talk to my teen when they’re already angry?
You can talk to your teen when they’re already angry by using the following G-I-V-E skills:
G–Gentle: Use a gentle and respectful tone. Remain calm and avoid yelling, accusing, or name-calling.
I–Interest: Show interest in your teen’s feelings, thoughts, and life. Give them your full attention by putting away or avoiding distractions.
V–Validate: Validate their feelings to make them feel understood. Accept that they have the right to be mad, even when you disagree on why.
E–Easy Manner: Try to appear easygoing and approachable. Stay calm. Don’t try to solve or fix your teen’s problems. Let them know you’re present to listen and understand.
Can medication help with anger issues in teens?
Yes, they can. However, medication isn’t preferable for anger management. While they can help when other interventions haven’t worked, talk to a professional first for advice. Talk to our team at Nexus Teen Academy for guidance on what to do when other treatment options have failed.
What role does social media or gaming play in teen anger?
Social media and gaming play the following roles in teen anger:
Social rejection on social media platforms can result in anger. Positive social feedback for expressing rage can also encourage future outbursts.
Failure experienced during gaming can influence gamer rage.
Are anger issues hereditary or learned behavior?
Genetics can play a role in developing anger issues, thereby making anger heritable. While anger is an emotion and can’t be directly considered learned behavior, ways of expressing anger can be learned.
How long does it take to see improvement through therapy?
There’s no specific time that’s uniform for all adolescents. While anger management therapy can run for several months, some teens may show positive changes within six to eight weeks.
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Anger Management in Teens
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To do this, our team uses the following editorial guidelines:
Clinically reviewed by Executive Director Hannah Carr, LPC
Executive Director Hannah Carr, LPC
Hannah graduated from Arizona State University with her Bachelor’s in Psychology and Master’s in Counseling and is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Arizona. She began her work as a therapist 12 years ago in South Phoenix with an intensive outpatient program for teens and their families. She joined Nexus in the residential program as the clinical director, eventually being promoted to the executive director, creating and building the clinical program structure and a strong culture focused on redirecting the trajectory of young lives.
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Anger is a normal part of a teen’s development, and is usually caused by changes in hormones or responsibilities and a desire for independence or self-discovery. A 2015 survey reports a 7.8% prevalence of inappropriate, intense, or poorly controlled anger.
When left unmanaged, teen anger can become destructive and cause problems in school or a teen’s relationships and social life. It’s essential to address it as soon as you notice a pattern.
In this article, you will learn effective adolescent anger management strategies and how to support your child. If you’re worried that your son or daughter could spiral out of control due to anger, contact our team at Nexus Teen Academy. We can provide expert insight and treatment options for your teen struggling with anger issues.
Proven Anger Management Strategies for Teens
Anger management techniques help teens reflect on their thoughts and feelings to develop better responses. They include the following:
Cognitive Behavioral Techniques
Cognitive restructuring involves shifting a teen’s thought patterns and changing impulsive reactions. It teaches them to replace negative thoughts and responses with healthy ones.
“Pause and think” strategies provide a deeper insight into adolescent emotions and enable teens to understand the problem and respond appropriately rather than react.
Mindfulness and Relaxation Tools
Anger increases the breathing rate by triggering the release of stress hormones. By controlling their breathing with slow, deep breaths, teens can feel quick relief and effectively calm themselves. Additionally, grounding exercises and journaling can improve mindfulness and help teens avoid aggressive reactions.
Physical Outlets for Anger
Activities like art and music provide an outlet to release built-up tension and allow teens a more productive way to process their emotions. Moreover, exercise and sports can also trigger the production of mood-enhancing hormones and are a great form of stress relief.
Teaching Assertive Communication
Poor communication can worsen a teenager’s mood and escalate conflict. Assertive communication helps express needs and feelings with clarity and calmness. It involves techniques such as:
Creating a Teen Anger Management Toolbox
Every adolescent experiences emotions differently. Creating a personalized set of coping techniques can help manage moods in unique situations and provide teens with a path forward when their emotions get the better of them. Include the following in your teen anger toolbox:
Role of Parents in Managing Teen Anger
While teenagers strive for independence, they may not always regulate their emotions on their own. Since adolescence is a developmental stage, teens can learn the following about anger management from their parents:
Modeling Healthy Emotional Regulation
Adolescents learn from what they see in the people close to them. How you handle your anger sets the tone for your teen’s emotional regulation. Here’s what you can do:
Encouraging Open Conversations
Open communication during heated moments can foster a healthy relationship with your child. You can validate their emotions without dismissing or overreacting by:
Setting Clear and Consistent Boundaries
Boundaries foster a trusting relationship and can reduce conflict. It is vital to discuss clear and consistent expectations with your teenager. Use strategies like “meeting in the middle” when your opinions differ. When discussing the consequences of crossing these boundaries, choose discipline over punishment.
Knowing When to Step Back
Allowing your teenager space for independent emotional processing can instill self-confidence. They may learn that not all situations need intervention and that they can work out some challenges independently. It may not always be obvious when to step back, so trust your instincts. Let your teen know you’re always there to support them should they feel overwhelmed.
Why Teens Experience Intense Anger
Various factors may contribute to the intense anger some teens experience. Let’s take a closer look at some of the common factors and triggers that cause teen anger.
Biological and Psychological Factors
The brain develops at different stages. One of the first parts to develop is the limbic system, which processes emotions, memory, and motivation. The prefrontal cortex, which handles reasoning and decision-making, develops much later. Teenagers may thus experience intense emotions or impulsivity. Due to the slow development of the prefrontal cortex, teens may struggle to understand, express, or manage their feelings.
During puberty, a teen’s body produces hormones that affect their emotions in the following ways:
Environmental Triggers
Environmental triggers like academic pressure, peer conflict, and family tension can cause stress, which can lead to a heightened state of arousal, affecting emotional regulation. During this state of arousal, the body releases stress hormones that increase blood pressure and heart rate, changes that are similar to when the body prepares for aggression.
Underlying Emotional Issues
Mental health conditions like teen depression, anxiety, and PTSD can impact anger management. Research suggests a connection between suppressed or inappropriately expressed anger and anxiety. Moreover, anger is a secondary emotion. Teenagers may experience primary emotions like sadness, loss, or fear first. They may try to deal with these uncomfortable feelings by unconsciously expressing anger.
When Anger Becomes a Problem
When expressed appropriately, anger can be okay and even necessary. It’s the brain’s way of keeping us safe or signaling injustice. But when anger triggers aggressive, violent, or self-harming behavior, it poses high risks to physical and mental health. Withdrawal can also cause agitation and, ultimately, unhealthy outbursts.
Common Signs of Anger Issues in Teens
Teenagers who remain angry for an extended period or whose anger affects their daily lives may have deeper issues. Here’s how you can identify anger issues:
Behavioral Signs
Teens may express their anger outwardly by yelling, slamming doors, or engaging in physical aggression.
A teenager who hasn’t developed healthy coping mechanisms may feel an urge to express their anger outwardly, which often leads to physical or emotional harm.
Emotional Signs
Adolescent anger can manifest as irritability, frequent frustration, or resentment. Frustrated teens may feel out of control and resort to unhealthy ways to manage their feelings. When anger comes out as frustration towards someone else and builds up, it becomes resentment. It’s a passive manifestation of anger since it involves indirectly expressing it. However, if teens do not receive proper anger management treatment, these problems can eventually boil over into something more dangerous, such as physical violence.
Social or Academic Consequences
Anger affects how teens perceive and respond to disagreements. As a result, it can cause frequent conflicts with peers and affect the quality of their relationships. When left untreated, this can lead to angry outbursts, aggressive behavior, and drops in academic performance.
Healthy Anger vs. Unhealthy Anger in Teens
Anger is a normal human emotion. However, most teenagers do not know how to properly manage their anger and often express it in unhealthy or even dangerous ways.
Recognizing the Difference
Anger is a natural, survival emotion that is difficult to avoid entirely. Avoiding or ignoring emotions can make them stronger and lead to consequences. Research shows an association between suppressed anger and increased mortality risks.
Expressing emotions in healthy ways can promote well-being and relieve stress or teen anxiety. It can also improve self-awareness and decision-making.
Why Suppression Can Be Harmful
Some teens may unconsciously avoid their emotions due to past traumatic events or general social pressures. But repressing emotions can cause mental and physical health issues. A study suggests a link between emotional suppression and anxiety, depression, and PTSD, while another review found that suppressing emotions can also suppress immunity, causing individuals to be more vulnerable to illness.
Teaching Intelligence
Emotional intelligence involves understanding, using, and managing emotions. Teens can improve their emotional intelligence by doing the following:
Treatment and Anger Management for Teens
The following treatment interventions can help address teen anger issues:
Getting School Support
Schools can support teen anger management in the following ways:
Teen Anger Management at Nexus Teen Academy
Self-awareness is a superpower that helps teens develop effective anger management. It helps understand anger, its triggers, and an adolescent’s responses. At Nexus Teen Academy, we guide teens to build self-awareness and reinforce healthy anger management. We believe that long-term emotional regulation helps teenagers develop emotional stability, greater resilience, and positive coping skills.
We understand that growth is progressive and doesn’t happen overnight. Every effort a teen puts towards emotional regulation makes a difference to their well-being. Contact Nexus Teen Academy today. We are happy to guide and support you all the way during this journey. If you are looking for a place to send your defiant teenager, give our team a call now.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
You can talk to your teen when they’re already angry by using the following G-I-V-E skills:
Yes, they can. However, medication isn’t preferable for anger management. While they can help when other interventions haven’t worked, talk to a professional first for advice. Talk to our team at Nexus Teen Academy for guidance on what to do when other treatment options have failed.
What role does social media or gaming play in teen anger?
Social media and gaming play the following roles in teen anger:
Genetics can play a role in developing anger issues, thereby making anger heritable. While anger is an emotion and can’t be directly considered learned behavior, ways of expressing anger can be learned.
There’s no specific time that’s uniform for all adolescents. While anger management therapy can run for several months, some teens may show positive changes within six to eight weeks.